Forgiveness. It’s What’s For Dinner

// May 29th, 2013 // life

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Wow. A new blog post. Something must have happened!!!  Yes, life has continued to happen. :)

A few questions about things in my life have surfaced lately and I figured it would be best to share. That way there isn’t any mis-information (or at least a little less).

First off- I’m not perfect and I never have been. Shocker, right? Nobody is perfect on this earth but how we deal with the “less than perfect” people can define us. It can shape our attitudes and our daily experiences.

However, this story about forgiveness isn’t about me. It’s about Renee. My wife of 21 years this week. She’s the hero of the story. Without her forgiveness there is no 21 years.

Around 20 years ago, Renee and I got in an argument. It was big enough for me to storm out of the house for the night. Not a night I’m proud of at all.

I won’t get into the details (if we are friends and you want the story I’m happy to tell you). We aren’t hiding anything but some details are meant for personal conversation.

Renee and I dealt with that night several years ago. She forgave. No, it wasn’t that easy. Trust is hard to come by. Forgiveness and memories are not easy to deal with. Renee dealt with it all and she forgave me. We moved on and life was back to normal.

Or so we thought.

This past weekend we met a beautiful young lady named Morgan for the first time. She’s 18. She’s my daughter. She’s pretty awesome and we are excited to add her to our family. Emma & Emerson instantly loved her as Renee and I did.

While I’m not proud of what happened I can say that I’m proud of Morgan and how she has handled all this. It’s hard to explain how something so awesome can come from a bad decision but it did.

Renee’s forgiveness didn’t end. She’s embraced Morgan as if she were her own. I’m so incredibly blessed by this woman that there is no way I could write enough blog posts just for her.

As for me. Forgiveness was a little hard to come by. I had a lot of anger. Anger at Morgan’s mom for hiding her and not letting me know. However, something that I’ve learned thru this is that God’s timing is perfect. I let the anger go. I’ve forgiven her mom for not telling me. Again, I want to put an emphasis on God’s timing. It’s perfect. I can’t explain his timing… I don’t think I’m supposed to.

Renee has truly lived out what forgiveness and love look like. Thank you Renee for loving me, forgiving me and standing by me when you’ve had so many reasons to walk away. I love you.

There you have it- the short version. I realize there will be some comments and thoughts that will be less than positive. Please save those for me and me alone.

17 Responses to “Forgiveness. It’s What’s For Dinner”

  1. Jeremy says:

    Amazing. I love you guys! God’s grace working itself out in our Iives and marriages is a beautiful sight to behold! Thank you for sharing!!

    Xo,
    J

  2. Bird Wasser says:

    What an awesome story and such a blessing!!!! I know that girl Renee you speak of and she is the best!!!! You got yourself a good one buddy! (she does too) My life is sure better for knowing you both. I am so happy for you all!

  3. Rusty Piggott says:

    Jason & Renee
    Remember you have my support and love. It will be great to add a new family member. Please let Morgan know about this side of family and support she has from us. Love y’all Rusty

  4. Holly Sox says:

    Thank you so much for this post. I’ve been working (or rather, God has been working on me) on forgiveness for a while now. There has been much hurt, much betrayal, much damage in my life. None was deeper than the hurt from my husband’s affair and our separation. But God is a God of miracles, of restoration, of second (and third and 900th) chances, and He has completely rebuilt and restored our family. I pray that He will use our story and use your story to reach others with the message that there is no such thing as “no hope” and that forgiving the hard stuff is definitely worth it.

    I’d like to share a video that we did with part of our story. I hope it blesses you and you’ll share it with others. Thanks again for your boldness in sharing your life.

    http://youtu.be/IGJzJcM7Kuw

  5. Mary watkins says:

    How exciting. Love and grace abound my friend.

  6. Dad says:

    So proud of you my son and your understanding of the grace of God. It took a lot of guts to put it out there but that’s called Living Out Loud and it’s a good thing. Hug sweet Renee for me.

  7. Chad Cockriel says:

    Good post my brother :)

  8. John Thomas says:

    Awesome story of God’s redeeming power. You are truely blessed to have a wife and daughter willing to forgive and let go. God Bless Your Family.

  9. Bronwyn Mckinney says:

    I am so happy for the both of you.What a loving wife you have.My husband cheated on me repeatedly and has a beautiful 5 yr old from one affair.I truely love her like my own.My story doesnt end in happily forever…My husband choice to not seek help and continue seeing others and to get a divorce.He still lives that life style and got into drugs.As for me I have forgiven him and continue to pray for his daughter ,our children and my X…Thank you for sharing your story.Best wishes to all.

  10. April P says:

    The life God creates is always meant to be a blessing no matter the circumstances. .Praise God that her mom choose life! Unfortunately too many dads never know they were ever dads…and Renee’s willingness to follow God will make her a wonderful role model for this young lady…What a wonderful redemption story..and how blessed she is to be part of your wonderful family…

  11. Jaime Kesler says:

    Amazing story! God’s faithfulness is unbelievable. What a wonderful wife you have! And how good God is, even in the hardest of situations. Prayers for you and your family. May God get all the glory and you guys get the blessings!

  12. Bobby Gatchel says:

    When I was 19 and serving at GCFB, my father drives up with a 18 yr old blonde. Hands me 50$ and says “Bob, this is your sister. Take her out and show her Charleston. I’ll tell you more later.” Just that fast. I made her welcome . She went back to California and didn’t hear anything more about her until about 2 yrs ago, when she tracked me down on FB. We’re friends and talk a lot. Just wished I’d had known her coming up. Things like this seem confusing/ Knowing that Gods planning and timing is perfect reminds me of an old Southern gospel song, “we’ll understand it better by and by.” Love you very much! Respect and love for Renee just went off the chart.

  13. Janet says:

    Your daughter has a part of you in her. Renee loves you until the end of time so naturally she wants your daughter to be a part of your life and your family!! Now the real question is does she surf? God Bless!!

  14. Lisa S. says:

    What a beautiful daughter she is! What an amazing wife Renee is. God is good and is always in the details. I look forward in seeing what God has planned for all of you…Morgan, you are blessed to have these folks in your life. I love all of them dearly!!

  15. Sandra Moss says:

    How blessed you are to have a wife like Renee… I don’t know w either of you, but I love Curt and Joyce.. I know love is grand but a love like this is more than we expect.. Next to God’s love is a love like Renee has for you, Jason.. God bless and Morgan is lucky to me in this family.. Hugs to you all.

  16. Courtney says:

    Hey Jason, it was brave of you to share this part
    of your life and I respect that;) At first I was thinking “WOW!”… Considering everything y’all must be going through. I’ve always
    thought there was something special about you two. True love is beautiful and it’s obvious you two love each other that way. Seeing Gods grace and him work out forgiveness in people’s life is also beautiful. Morgan is going to love her new family! I think so much of Renee and her strength:) Love and miss y’all!
    Courtney Joyce

  17. Jordan says:

    Words cannot even express just how amazing this story is. Gods love is incredible. Ive had the blessing of knowing you,renee, and the family for many years and I cant wait to meet the newest addition. Bless you brotha :)